On Being a Housewife…

January 21, 2008 at 3:49 pm (Family)

(Picture from http://www.retro-housewife.com/

Sometimes I think it’s the most thankless job ever, especially when my brother-in-law is always telling my sister how she’s “outdone herself” … again! I love staying home, and I love my kids, but sometimes I’m ready to hire a nanny just so that I can have a bit of time to myself.

We're Watching You

(Picture from http://www.retro-housewife.com/)

This however, is not one of those days! I was having one of those days last week, but now I’m over it and thouroughly enjoying my day job! I found a lovely how-to guide on being a housewife, and if you’re so inclined, you can read it here. It’s a very reasonable what to expect kind of thing.

Doug and I have been having some conversations about our mutual expectations after one evening of me going way over the deep-end about a dishwasher that was not loaded according to the specifications of the Martha Stewart Homemaking Book. I know, I know, I should have been grateful that my husband did the dishes without being asked, but I wasn’t. Not even close!

Martha Stewart's Homekeeping Handbook: The Essential Guide to Caring for Everything in Your Home

So, now I’ve tried to let go of my preconceived notions of dishwasher loading, and my ideas about what actually constitutes “quality time”! I refuse however, to give up my mandate about not unrolling dirty socks (I don’t think that’s too much to ask … anyone??). I’m going to enjoy the moment, while at the same time maintaining some semblance of an orderly house. Not a super clean house, but one where I can find the tax documents that I know I filed … somewhere!

I’ve got the best job going, and for a little proof here is a little snippet from my four year old when he was asked why he was laughing so much: “Oh, it just tickles my feelings, that’s all.”

Those are the things I’m going to try and keep in mind on days when I’m not “outdoing” myself!



  1. bitterhousewife said,

    I love being a housewife too. I think it is the hardest job I ever done. Like every job, good or bad, we have to vent. …Lol about unrolling the socks… for me, I am wishing my husband will someday put his dirty laundry in the basket

  2. rhall said,

    It’s easy at my age to say we should all let a few things go. And it certainly does help if we can learn to enjoy our more mundane chores instead of just tolerating, or complaining, if we are still at that point. We need to prioritize at every age of course. As I ponder about this homemaking, mothering, etc. I have to say I wish I’d been even more nurturing and far less critical than I once was. I’m convinced we all need to support eachother more, emphasize and bring out the best in all we associate with, esp. spouses and children, and just plain have more fun, joy even! We have every tool we need to be very happy, if we just use them.

  3. Christina said,

    Love this post. Love Rozanne’s comments.

    I don’t get so many “out-done yourself” comments anymore – he says I set the bar too high in the beginning and too many people teased him about it!

  4. Greg said,

    Housewife??? Where do I find one of those.

  5. Jill said,

    All I can say is ditto to Rozannes comments and Doug did the dishes? Can Brian take lessons?

  6. anne said,

    All these comments are great. Isn’t Rozie so wise? And Greg and Jill are cracking me up! I had to laugh at the dishwasher thing because Gram Tillie is a total tryant about proper loading–to the tune of reloading an entire load if the loader loaded incorrectly! (I’ve never written load so many times.) Anyway, glad I’m not the only neurotic one. I rather pride myself lately on my constant tidying and cleaning and am realizing that baby #2 is going to knock me right off my high horse!

  7. ingrid said,

    Aren’t Doug and Mike brothers? This post makes me laugh because Mike is the one that showed me how to properly load the dishwasher…

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